Parents and Lakeland cheerleading coaches want the same thing: for the team to win. However, parents want another thing entirely different from the goals of a cheer coach. Parents want their specific kid to rule the squad and to be the star cheerleader. Unfortunately, this is something that the coach can’t do anything about. The star or head cheerleader is chosen based on her abilities, her skills, her leadership, and other qualities.
Fortunately, cheering coaches know how to handle these things. That’s why most cheer parents must learn from cheer coaches on how the latter manage the squad and the teenage hormones and drama that go with it.
When a cheerleading team loses, no matter how bummed out the coach feels about it, he will try to make the situation light and say a few words of wisdom and inspiration to the cheerleaders. As a parent, you may be tempted to say your own comments and opinions about what happened. Stay cool and follow what the coach did. Instead of being angry and frustrated, you can simply be there for your daughter and offer her your shoulders if she needs them.
Stop yourself from complaining
A cheerleader coach knows that when he has a problem with a certain girl in the team, he would have to speak with that person privately. He won’t call out that cheerleader in front of her teammates because she will be shamed and teased about it. Parents, too, may feel the need to complain to a coach. Don’t let your children see that because they would think it’s okay to complain about every little thing.
Remember that you are not the coach
As a cheer parent, all you really can do is to support your daughter the best that you can. Drop her off at practice and watch her during competitions, but don’t ever exercise your authority over her when it comes to cheer stuff. Why? Your kids are programmed to do as you ask. Since they were little, they recognize your authority. Can you imagine how they would feel if they suddenly need to follow you and not their coach? It would affect the whole team.
See your kid as a part of the team, not a superstar
It can’t be helped. Parents want the best for their children, a cheer mother, for example, would want her daughter to be the head cheerleader or the star of the show. That does not work in a cheerleading team because it is the coach who will evaluate and determine who the head cheerleader will be.
Allow your child to talk to the coach
If your daughter has a problem with the coach, let her talk to the coach. You would feel bad if the coach talks to someone else about your daughter’s problem in the team, right? Encourage your daughter to have a familial relationship with the coach, so she can tell him anything that bothers her about Lakeland cheerleading.